Hi guys! Complements of the season and Eid Mubarak to those that have celebrated eid. I have this problem of not posting till after a long time, but I promise to be more disciplined where that is concerned. So today I am posting on the topic forgiveness as typed above.
We all have this person or set of people that we hate so much because they have done wrong by us, and that might have hurt us much that we don’t want to forgive them for it, or maybe even want to avenge what has been done to us. So here is where the problem lies; when you hate someone, you don’t just hate that person but you are creating a void, a space for darkness in your soul. Hatred affects you in a very negative way, beyond what you think. It is like piercing your skin with a pin and expecting someone else to feel the pain. Now the person you hate might not even care and here you are, spoiling your mood and ruining your chances of happiness. Hatred does one no good in any way because it doesn’t give you peace but rather disturbs your peace. Hatred doesn’t have to be between you and others, it could also be within yourself (self loathe). When you hate yourself for something you’ve done, your past mistakes and all, you are going to be ever miserable and be drowned in a world of sorrow.
Now you must be thinking whether there is a way out of this, of course there is! The answer here is love and forgiveness, not revenge. Forgiveness is accepting what has happened, letting it go, moving on and being on the path to your happiness. Revenge on the other hand might seem more satisfying because you are going to settle the score of what was done to you, but trust me it is not. By doing that, you are going to stoop low to the level of the other, and do something out of your boundaries which is still not going to make you happy. The void created is even going to get bigger and you will have this feeling of emptiness inside you. Revenge is so unfulfilling I tell you. The best revenge served is forgiveness. By forgiving, you become the bigger and better person. I must mention that its not all easy, but it is also not beyond you. And you don’t actually have to forget what happened, you just need to not feel the negative effects that the event had on you. You also need to make peace with your situation, shortcomings and the things you hate about yourself.
A wise man once told me that hating something or someone means holding on to them and making them important. If you really hate them, then make them unimportant by forgiving and letting go; then you will be happy.
I don’t want to make this too long, so I’m stopping here. I hope you will have the strength to forgive yourselves and others. You can drop your comments and also subscribe to this website